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A Guide To Building A Fulfilling Relationship With Yourself

Beverley Glazer April 2023

Time To Reinvent: Beverley Glazer

Ladies, let’s talk about life. It’s a roller coaster ride, isn’t it?

One day we’re up, and the next day we’re down. Sometimes it feels like we’re just along for the ride. But I’m here to remind you that you are the driver of your own life. You have the power to make changes and steer yourself towards a happier future. You have the ability to create a fulfilling relationship with yourself.

Treating Yourself:

First things first, let’s talk about self-love. Now, I know that can sound like a daunting task. But really, it’s just about treating yourself the way you would treat your best friend. Would you call your friend names and put her down? Of course not! So why do we do it to ourselves? Let’s cut ourselves some slack, shall we?

Take some time for self-care. Whether that’s a bubble bath, a long walk, or curling up with a good book, make sure to do things that make you feel good. And if that means eating a whole pizza by yourself, well, I won’t tell anyone.

“It’s okay to set boundaries and distance yourself from those people.”

Speaking of food, let’s talk about nourishing ourselves. Now, I’m not saying you have to eat kale and quinoa all day every day. Life is too short for that! But it’s important to fuel our bodies with good stuff, too. And if that means having a glass of wine and some chocolate, well, everything in moderation, right?

Surround yourself with positivity. We all have those friends who bring us down or drain our energy. It’s okay to set boundaries and distance yourself from those people. Instead, surround yourself with people who lift you up and make you feel good.

Let’s Talk About Your Future:

Now, I know life can throw some curveballs our way. Sometimes it feels like the whole world is against us. But let me tell you, those challenges are what make us stronger. You know that saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”? Well, it’s true. And besides, when we look back on those tough times, we can be proud of ourselves for getting through them.

And finally, let’s talk about the future. I know it can be scary to think about what’s next. But it’s also exciting! Who knows what’s in store for us? Maybe we’ll fall in love with someone unexpected. Maybe we’ll travel to a place we’ve always wanted to visit. Or maybe we’ll discover a new hobby or passion. Whatever it is, working towards a more fulfilling relationship with oneself is key. The possibilities are endless!

So my dear ladies, let’s embrace our quirks and imperfections. Let’s love ourselves and treat ourselves with kindness. Let’s surround ourselves with positivity and take on the challenges that come our way. And let’s look forward to the future with optimism and excitement.

Life is a roller coaster ride, but it’s also a beautiful adventure. Let’s enjoy every twist and turn, and make the most of this wild ride we call life.

Build A Fulfilling Relationship With Yourself:

Certainly! Here are eight strategies for building a stronger relationship with yourself and becoming your own best friend:

1. Practice self-compassion:

Be kind to yourself and treat yourself with the same compassion you would extend to a dear friend. Recognize that you are only human and that it’s okay to make mistakes.

2. Engage in positive self-talk:

Pay attention to the way you speak to yourself. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations and kind words.

“This can help you gain insight into your inner world and develop greater self-awareness.”

3. Prioritize self-care:

Make time for activities that nourish your body, mind, and soul. This could include exercise, meditation, taking a bubble bath, or reading a book.

4. Set healthy boundaries:

Establish boundaries that honor your needs and protect your well-being. This could mean saying “no” to requests that don’t align with your values or taking a break from toxic relationships.

5. Practice self-reflection:

Take time to reflect on your experiences, thoughts, and emotions. This can help you gain insight into your inner world and develop greater self-awareness that will get you closer to a fulfilling relationship with yourself.

6. Cultivate gratitude:

Focus on the good things in your life and express gratitude for them. This can help shift your perspective and cultivate a more positive outlook.

7. Celebrate your accomplishments:

Take time to acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small. Celebrating your successes can boost your confidence and reinforce a positive self-image, furthering your cause towards a fulfilling relationship.

8. Foster a growth mindset:

Embrace challenges and view them as opportunities for growth. Believe in your ability to learn and adapt, and recognize that setbacks are a natural part of the learning process.

Did You Have A Wake-Up Call?

Was Mr. Wonderful, not that wonderful, and you’ve felt you’ve been hit on the head with a brick?

My wake-up call came when I opened the door and a subpoena was placed in my hand. But it doesn’t have to be as dramatic as that. Sometimes you find that you’re drinking too much, or putting on weight, but deep down inside you know that this is not the only problem. You know that something is missing in your life.

It’s your turn: Embrace your journey to a more fulfilling life.

Ladies, let me tell you something: you are not old! No matter what’s happened in your past, you have the power to move forward and use your experiences as a launch pad to a brighter future. Maybe in the first half of your life, you did what you thought you were supposed to do, but were you really happy? It’s never too late to make changes and live life on your own terms.

“Those negative thoughts don’t serve you, and they don’t define you.”

Work Towards A Fulfilling Relationship With You:

I know firsthand that only when things fall apart do we have the opportunity to grow and reflect. So if you’re feeling that something’s missing, trust your intuition and go for it! You have the strength and resilience to make things happen.

It can be tough to feel good about yourself when you look in the mirror and judge yourself harshly. Maybe you think you’re too old, too fat, or not good enough. But guess what? Those negative thoughts don’t serve you, and they don’t define you. You deserve to feel confident, beautiful, and worthy, just as you are. Here are some ways to help you change those self-defeating thoughts:

  • Celebrate your body for all that it can do, rather than focusing on perceived flaws.
  • Focus on the positive aspects of your life and yourself, rather than dwelling on the negative.
  • Remember that you are in control of your own happiness and that you have the power to make positive changes in your life.

Live The Life You Truly Desire:

Don’t wait any longer to pursue your dreams and live the life you truly desire. Time doesn’t stop, and neither should you. Your time is now, and you have the power to make it count. Have faith in yourself, trust your intuition, and embrace the power of positivity. You got this!

  • Recognize the good things about yourself: Focus on your strengths and positive attributes. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself, and read it regularly to boost your confidence and self-esteem.
  • Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a good friend. Be gentle with yourself when you make mistakes and forgive yourself for past errors.
  • Surround yourself with positivity: Seek out positive people, activities, and environments that uplift and inspire you. Avoid negative influences and situations that make you feel down or discouraged. Fill your life with joy, laughter, and beauty.

Trust Yourself:

Ladies, it’s time to stop holding onto the past and start embracing your future. Don’t let your self-defeating thoughts hold you back any longer. You are not too old, too fat, too anything to pursue your dreams and live the life you truly desire.

Trust your intuition, have faith in yourself, and take that first step towards your future. Time is precious and it waits for no one. Don’t wait for the “perfect” moment because it may never come. The time is now. You have the power to make a change, and you deserve to live a life that fulfills you. So go ahead, take that leap of faith and watch as your life transforms into something extraordinary. Remember, you are the author of your own story, so make it a great one.

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About the Author:

Beverley Glazer MA., CCC., ICCAC, is a Psychotherapist, Internationally Certified Addiction Specialist, Coach and Founder of Reinvent Impossible Inc; a personal development company that educates, coaches, and empowers women who’ve experienced life transitions, that left them feeling powerless, to build on their strengths, create new possibilities and get the fresh start they long for.

After 30 years in private practice, helping people through traditional therapy, she turned her attention to coaching; supporting and creating programs for women in midlife and beyond, who’ve had an extreme wake-up call, to unlock their potential, get grounded and focused and carve a clear pathway to the future, with grace and ease.

2 thoughts on “A Guide To Building A Fulfilling Relationship With Yourself

  1. Sheri Eafen says:

    Hi, my name is Sheri, I’m a Life and Health Coach. I’m interested in knowing more about your company/ program.

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