Sex, Aphrodite Awakening, Kuel Category Expert: Beth Keil
WHAT THE HELL IS SHE TALKING ABOUT? I’ve already gone through (or are going through) menopause…how could I be fertile?
Dear sister, fertility extends way beyond any reproductive organ. It’s about what you want to create for you!
(Be careful: if you’re perimenopausal you can still get pregnant!)
In native cultures, women who no longer bleed are the elders and wise women of the community. They are seen as holding the wisdom within.
The Wisdom You Hold:
“it’s no longer about pleasing others”
What will you do with the wisdom you hold, to nourish your fertility, creativity, and life?
When it comes to being a midlife woman, this question is quite exciting. Especially, as you let go of cultural expectations. This is a time of self-reference, seeking and valuing your own counsel! Others, in your life, may offer helpful perspectives, but it’s no longer about pleasing others. It’s about living a life that is aligned with YOU!
Self-Referenced Does Not Equal Selfish:
One challenge, however, is how unconsciously engrained this cultural programming is. Being self-referenced can feel selfish, uncaring. Do you ask: “Who am I to (fill in the blank)?” Are you afraid, that if you change, others won’t like or love you anymore?
Many women, as they move into their 50’s, 60’s, and beyond, shift their focus to their own lives, their pleasures, wants, and desires.
Right now, Baby Boomers, are the largest cohort of menopausal women ever seen in many countries around the world, And, that means there’s a flood of wisdom energy within!
“The world will be saved by the western woman.”
~The Dali Lama
I wonder if our cohort is a major reason why?
When we become self-referenced, we are not seeking an outer authority to tell us what we should do or think. When we are self-referenced, our intuition becomes a source for understanding and connection. This becomes a way to explore the world with curiosity. It is also a gateway to redefinition.
The Midlife Reinvention:
“This is a time we can make claim to our sexuality”
Have you seen midlife women redefine themselves as they search for new meaning in their lives, work or vocation, or in their relationships? I have. And, they make up a large percent of the women who come to me for hypnotherapy, as they seek deeper understanding and clarity, in this chapter of their lives.
Some describe this time as if they were sitting in the front seat of a roller-coaster, climbing up, up, up, then hurling down the mountain while their hands are pried off the bar, trusting they won’t fall out!
Dear sister, this is also a time to redefine your inner Aphrodite!
This is a time we can make claim to our sexuality, sexual exploration, and desires. Be multi-orgasmic, noisy when you make love, give yourself pleasure, get wet at the sound of your lover’s voice, or however you make claim to yourself.
Riding this roller-coaster, holding the wisdom within, and being fertile in midlife requires surrender. And it rides on the wings of trust and vulnerability. It takes courage and community. It takes willingness and learning.
Dear sister, your seat is waiting for you!
About The Author:
Beth Keil helps her clients change and transform their lives. She offers a special focus on helping people claim the birthright of their erotic identity and to live in the joy, intimacy, and connection it brings. Beth is a Registered Nurse, MindSet Coach, and a Board Certified Hypnotist. Through her work, she enjoys integrating all her interests, experiences, and skills to bring sensuality, sex, and the erotic into greater awareness and conversation. You can schedule a 30-minute complimentary phone consultation with Beth using the Discovery Session icon.