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Embrace The New Year Authentically

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Simplicity & Connection Thought Leader: Kay Newton

Just like that, we stand at the threshold of a New Year, where have the last 365 days gone?

The seasonal festivities are a time when many of us feel the societal pressure to craft grand resolutions that often leave us feeling defeated within weeks. But what if, this year, we approached resolutions with a sensibly selfish mindset? It is time to find authenticity, and simplicity, and embrace New Year’s resolutions that are truly ours. Read on to find out how.

Reflect On The Authentic You:

Before diving into the resolutions for the coming year, take a moment to reflect on the past 8760 hours. Set aside any societal expectations and reflect on your personal journey. What were the highs and lows? What lessons did you learn? This introspection is the cornerstone of being sensibly selfish — understanding and appreciating your unique path without the burden of external judgments.

“The sensibly selfish woman understands that her story is unique, and the power lies in embracing it wholeheartedly.”

Reflect on the moments that brought you joy, the challenges that made you stronger, and the lessons that shaped you. This reflection isn’t about conforming to any other person’s standards but about acknowledging and celebrating your authentic self. The sensibly selfish woman understands that her story is unique, and the power lies in embracing it wholeheartedly.

Ignore Outer Signals:

Societal expectations often dictate the New Year’s resolutions we make, pushing us toward conventional goals that may not align with our authentic desires. If you find yourself saying anything off the list below, without feeling the passion, STOP!

  • I need to lose weight.
  • This year, I should get fitter.
  • My stress levels could be reduced.
  • Perhaps this is my year to make a million!
  • Would selling my house make me happy?

Time to break free from resolutions that do not resonate, the shackles of societal norms. New Year’s resolutions need not follow a predefined template; they should be as diverse and unique as the individuals making them.

Whether it’s a small personal goal or a profound life change, the key is authenticity. Ignore the external noise that dictates what resolutions should look like and focus on what resonates with you. Embracing sensibly selfish resolutions means making choices that genuinely align with your values, aspirations, and the authentic narrative you’re scripting for yourself.

The Sensibly Selfish Approach:

Being sensibly selfish isn’t about neglecting others; it’s about prioritizing your well-being, dreams, and desires. As we step into the new year, let’s infuse this mindset into our resolutions. Craft goals that reflect your passions, acknowledge your limitations, and honor the woman you’ve become.

Take a moment to acknowledge the simple joys that bring a smile to your face and the small changes that can make a significant impact. The sensibly selfish woman understands that new year’s resolutions aren’t a checklist; they are a way of authentically living and evolving. This approach allows you to navigate the coming year with purpose, resilience, and a sense of fulfillment.

“Embrace the present moment, and let your resolutions be a celebration of the woman you are today.”

Crafting Simple and Personal New Year’s Resolutions:

Simplicity is the heartbeat of sensibly selfish resolutions. Instead of overwhelming yourself with an extensive list of goals, focus on intentions that truly matter to you. These could be small daily habits, moments of self-care, or aspirations that have been whispering to your heart.

For example, the joy of starting each morning with a moment of mindfulness, or a commitment to healthy habits that resonate with your body, or the decision to prioritize self-care without guilt. Simple, personal resolutions, and compounded daily habits, have the power to create a profound impact on your daily life and well-being.

Embrace the Power of Now:

Resolutions often fail because they are either too grand in our ideas or postponed with excuses for an uncertain future. The sensibly selfish woman understands the power of now. Embrace the present moment, and let your resolutions be a celebration of the woman you are today. 

Remember you can only create the action of intention in the present moment, once your resolutions have been created it has to be let go of. Send into the universe with gratitude which then allows you to focus on the step-by-step actions that you take now.

Avoid the trap of procrastination and perfectionism. Your resolutions need not be flawless; they should be authentic and achievable. Embracing the power of now allows you to take small, meaningful steps toward your goals without the weight of unrealistic expectations.

“This New Year, be sensibly selfish in the pursuit of your goals.”

My Personal Journey:

When I look back at the past twelve months I am always amazed at how far I have come. This year my journey has been in upcycling beach plastic into works of art. If you had asked me a year ago if I had any artistic talent I would have laughed at you! Now I have a new hobby that resonates with my values and guardianship of the planet. It also gives me a new way of passing on the message of caring for Mother Earth. I have never been happier. 

This New Year, Just Do It!

As you stand on the brink of the New Year, remember that sensibly selfish resolutions are about authenticity, simplicity, and honoring your unique journey. Reflect on the past, ignore societal expectations and craft resolutions that resonate with the woman you are today.

This New Year, be sensibly selfish in the pursuit of your goals. Embrace the power of now, prioritize simplicity, and let your resolutions be a testament to your authentic self. The journey begins with you — celebrate the woman over 45 who is resilient, authentic, and ready to make the coming year truly her own. 

Will you be one of them? Why not share your thoughts and comments below and inspire others with your stories?

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Kay Newton

About the Author:

Kay is the founder of Midlife Strategies, an award-winning International Speaker, and enthusiastic author. She is an acknowledged expert guiding women to find their mojo, through the Midlife Squeeze.

Kay’s books include: 

Today, Kay lives a simple life next to a beach in Mallorca, Spain. You can find Kay here: www.KayNewton.com.