Allana Pratt, the Intimacy Expert, has been featured on CBS, TLC, FOX. She is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University and the author of three books with one on the way. She’s a coach to celebrities, the Host of the sexy empowering show IntimateConversationsLIVE.com, and the author of the highly anticipated self-help book – 7 Steps to Manifest your Beloved While Staying True to Yourself as featured on Datingnews.com.
We, here at Kuel Life, are excited to bring her expertise to our Kuel Community. Allana’s style: a straight-shooter, no holds bar, swear word thrown in on occasion; showcases her passionate devotion to helping women and men reclaim their joy, freedom and personal power.
Sometimes, and I know I fall prey, we focus on the negative. We are more likely to pay attention to the RED Flags that come up in our relationships. Knowing what those are is useful but here Allana opens up our minds to looking for and identifying the GREEN ones. Allana showcases a primary Green Flag of interdependency rather than co-dependency in her video clip below. Having a partner that lets you stay true to yourself is key to a healthy relationship. Approval and self-worth must come from inside and not from our partners. Intimacy, first and foremost, resides within. If you are in a relationship and still have your own friends, keep your own exercise routine, participate in hobbies that you are enthusiastic about then that is GREAT NEWS! Green Flags – all the way.
Some other relationship Green Flags? According to the Relationship Institute, the following attributes are good signs that you are in a whole coupling.
When you and your partner:
- are comfortable in discussing their feelings about their past and present life
- have good relationships with their family members but are also living a physically and psychologically independent life
- respect your physical and emotional boundaries and reveal vulnerable information about themselves gradually over time
- are psychologically finished with previous significant relationships
- can balance the need for control with the ability to be flexible when appropriate
- are able to express fears or vulnerability in emotionally safe situations
- are reliable; follow through on pre-arranged plans; show up on time for most meetings
- have one or more personal friendships that they have sustained for at least several years
- have a lifestyle which is conducive and allows for the addition of an intimate relationship; are able to balance work and personal life and create enough time for both
- have a positive, optimistic outlook on life
- have a good sense of humor
- take responsibility for their life, their feelings and the consequences of their decisions without blaming others
- take care of self physically and emotionally; dresses in a clean, attractive manner and eats right and exercises regularly
- are able to receive constructive feedback from others without getting defensive
Stay tuned for more intimacy and relationship advice from our newest Kuel Life Coach, Allana Pratt.