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How To Seek And Find Joy

Nina Obier June 2022

Joy Kuel Thought Leader: Nina Obier

Are you a Joy Seeker?

For the record, this is not about seeking happiness. In addition, happiness is a more transitory emotion inspired by fleeting events. This piece is all about how to seek and find JOY!

“when you shift your perspective to seeking joy you are looking for an underlying peace that lasts despite the pressures of life.”

Seeking Happiness:

If you are seeking happiness there is a very good chance you will attain it – momentarily. Why? Because you have put the emphasis on the outward circumstance. When the circumstance changes the happiness fades.

In addition, when you shift your perspective to seeking joy you are looking for an underlying peace that lasts despite the pressures of life. 

As a self-proclaimed Joy Seeker I am asked; what can I DO to HAVE this, Joy? How can you BE joyful, especially in such a time as this? 

This is where your journey begins. Notice the pattern: what can I DO to HAVE so that I can BE.

The Three Mindsets:

Through my research, I have learned about these three types of humans:

1.The Laborer/Worker:

This type is constantly focused on the doing, checking the boxes, and taking action. With the mindset that the more I do, the more I will have my heart’s desire, and I will be happy. Typically, what happens even if they achieve this happiness most likely they arrive at it exhausted. And as mentioned before, happiness is fleeting, so they get back on the treadmill because there is more doing to be done to have happiness. 

2. The Victim:

The next human is the victim. Their focus is typically on not having enough. Enough time, money or support. They believe when they have those externals then they will be able to do the things they’ve always wanted. This will then lead to them being happy and successful. The thing is they don’t have it now. They even get caught up in thinking if only I had what that person had, then I would be happy. But I don’t have what they have so I’m not. The victim is constantly looking for the externals to change before they move ahead.

“When you put who you are being in the driver’s seat you can then do the steps.”

3. The Victor:

Let’s talk about the victor. They choose to start with who they are. Yes, it is a choice. In other words, who are you to your core? Are you genuine? Outgoing? Disciplined? (Hey, that’s me a G.O.D. girl) Are you patient, clear, supportive, bold, or confident? 

Take Action:

In conclusion, when you approach life, relationships, work, and health do you think about who you are being? When you put who you are being in the driver’s seat you can then do the steps, and take the action necessary to have the desired results. Since you are operating from your core, your being, with your values and unique characteristics, you will have joy in the journey. 

I think it bears repeating, joy is not fleeting. Above all, joy is not hinged on everything going right. It’s quite the opposite joy comes when you stay true to who you are. Who you were created and designed to be as the storms of life come and go. 

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Nina Obier

About the Author:

Nina is the acclaimed author of “Listen.Learn.Love.Lead” and “My Daily Clarity” In her keynotes, seminars, and workshops she brings her positive energy and a unique ability to make the complex simple. As Founder of Success Simplified, Nina’s mission is to provide action-oriented tools and strategies so that her audiences and clients gain the ability to remove doubt, discouragement, and distraction to replace it with clarity, confidence, and commitment. 

Nina is passionate about personal development and is known for having the wisdom of a 90-year-old with the energy of a 9 year old.