Taking time for yourself is a common struggle for almost all the women I know. As more and more of you Kuel Women are participating in the ‘Share Your Story’ section; I am seeing that as a recurring theme.
Here are some of the ways I carve out time – or at least try to. I’ll start with the one I find most challenging.
- Say ‘NO’. If you’re like me, you have a gajillion requests from a gajillion people. Kids, friends, work colleagues, family, partners, and, yes – even pets. How often do you really say ‘No’? Imagine saying it. Practice saying it in the mirror. Get good at it and you’ll see that you might have just a bit more time for yourself. In my life, everyone hears ‘No’ every now and again – except my two kitties. Ugh; they pretty much get whatever they want.
- Delegate. I am definitely getting better at this one. Although, if you struggle with the ‘I do it better than anyone else’ disease (which I do), delegation can be elusive. I delegate stuff I truly don’t care about. Taking out the garbage. Stripping the bed sheets. Getting the mail from the mailbox.
- Outsource. I know, this one can be challenging financially. Not everyone can afford to pay others to take on tasks. But, if you can; hiring someone to mow your lawn or scrub your toilet, may open up some time for you to pursue your own interests.
- Schedule time for yourself. Seriously, put it on the family calendar if you have to. It doesn’t have to be alone time. I have scheduled ‘jump rope’ time with a dear friend every Tuesday morning. I have the luxury to schedule that during the week because I work from home. I get that not all of us have that flexibility. It’s hard to schedule time in any concrete way if you have a full time job, a partner, and kids but it’s something to strive towards.
Let’s say you successfully employ one or more of the afore mentioned ideas, the trick, and I struggle with this as well, is to not fill the time you just carved out with other ‘stuff’ you don’t care about. For me, it’s thinking ahead of time what I want to do for self care. I want to spend ‘me’ time practicing my guitar. I am a beginner and not very good at it but that doesn’t matter to me. What matters to me is that I find personal fulfillment from the challenge and joy in the occasional sound of ‘real’ music I get when I strum the strings. I want to spend time with close friends. Sharing time and space with women I care about and love nurtures and feeds my soul.
If any of you Kuel Women have other suggestions on ways to make time for yourself; I am all ears. I am always on the lookout to learn something new.
UPDATE ON THE GUITAR PLAYING... that my friends has gone by the wayside…. the reality is I am 100% all about Kuel Life and now sharing time with all the amazing women I meet and be-friend is incredibly fulfilling and inspiring.