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I’ve Officially Given Up Struggling – Allana, 49

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Allana Pratt is an intimacy guru. She is frequently featured on CBS, TLC & FOX. Pratt is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, the author of three books, and a coach to celebrities. Kuel Life is beyond thrilled to be collaborating with her. She will be joining our COACHING offering. We are lucky to be able to bring her sass, loving energy, and expertise to our Kuel Community. Welcome Allana!

There is power in story telling. There is power in community. There is power in sharing. The more we know about one another; the more we understand; the more powerful we become.

We invite all of the KuelWomen out there to share their stories with us.

This is Allana’s:

KUEL LIFE: What are you pursuing now, after 45, that surprises you or might appear to others as if it’s come out of left field?
ALLANA: I don’t think it’s terribly odd to be paddle boarding at 49, yet I really do miss pole dancing. Perhaps most people have a home by this age, yet I sold my beautiful million dollar home during the custody battle. I’m saving for a glorious ranch style home, perhaps in Montana or New Mexico 🙂

KUEL LIFE: What’s a typical day like for you?
ALLANA: If it’s a Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday that’s back-to-back 7 clients or interviews in a day which begins with a morning practice and ends with a glass of wine in a bubble bath 🙂

Mondays and Fridays are preparation and completion days, filled with more Conscious Creation time and either paddle boarding or hiking and a lot of emails and writing.

KUEL LIFE: With what do you struggle?

ALLANA: I’ve officially given up struggling. Yet I still curl up in the fetal position from time to time to cry. I do sit in the fire, lean into my challenges, and do my spiritual processing. My edge is to allow life to unfold with ease and to let go of the conclusion of working hard to get results. I’m doing a lot more choosing, letting go, and putting one foot in front of the other; and letting the universe bring things into my lap.

KUEL LIFE: How do you motivate yourself and stay motivated?
ALLANA: I don’t believe in motivation either. Motivation stems from fear; yet inspiration is Sourced in Love. So I spend a lot of time connecting my heart and soul with my mind so that there’s internal unity and harmony which inherently is delicious, enlivening, and luscious for my Creative Energy..

KUEL LIFE: What advice would you give fellow women about aging?
ALLANA: I love being 49. I sense 59, 69, 79 etc are going to be phenomenal; given every year I feel more beautiful and grateful and badass. The only way this became my reality was to make important the relationship I have with my sweet body. In the past I used to punish myself for mistakes and it would turn up as pain in my body. My sweet body was guiding me home to forgiveness and now I take its lessons to Heart.

KUEL LIFE: What does vulnerability mean to you? What has the ability to make you vulnerable?

ALLANA: Vulnerability is when we are present, honest, brave, and raw with ourselves and with another. I think it’s one of the most extraordinary superpowers we can have for it stems from the presupposition that no one and no thing on the outside has anything to do with our worth; that no one’s opinion of ourselves matters except our own; that we are our own best friend; and we can champion our journey no matter how many times we fall down and get back up..

KUEL LIFE: What are three events that helped to shape your life?
ALLANA: My goodness three events makes my brain go crazy! Yet if I was to think about the most life-changing event that happened… it was when I was 16. I thought my best friend was coming over for the weekend but instead he was dead. My cat hasn’t even died. My system wasn’t ready for it. I denied the news running down the highway screaming NOOO!!! at the top of my lungs somehow thinking that would change things.

Within 12 hours, a beautiful magical spiritual experience occurred. It was a clear blue sky evening. Not a cloud in the sky. As my friends and I were driving home from the Provincial Park where they had taken me bike riding to lift my spirits, there were TWO count them TWO rainbows that came down right over my cabin on our drive home. I knew it was a sign from my friend who just died. You see his mother had died 10 months prior and I knew they were together again.

It was in that moment that I made a decision, would I rather never know him and not be experiencing this pain… Or know him and learn how to keep my heart open in the face of anything? There wasn’t even a hesitation. I cherished every moment of our friendship. And he helped me learn how to live fully, to speak my truth, to go for my dreams, and to live with my heart open.

KUEL LIFE: Who influenced you the most in life and why?
ALLANA: My mom was pretty super dang cool. I remember when I was just about three years old and we lived in what we called the chicken coop townhouse. I got a Fisher-Price record player for Xmas. I put the little Fisher-Price people on the record player. She was watching the whole thing. On Low they would wobble. On Medium they would really shake! On High they would fly across the room! I thought it was the funniest thing that ever lived! She would smile, be present, and delighted with my creative endeavors. I felt so seen and safe and understood

KUEL LIFE: What is the best advice you’ve been given from another woman?
ALLANA: It wasn’t direct advice, it was just how she was being. I think it was the second time I’d had a the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Christiane Northrup on my show and she was following up with an email… And she said, Deliciously, Christiane. You mean people can sign their emails something other than sincerely or gratefully? You mean a DOCTOR could be naughty and say deliciously? My whole world changed. That’s when I started to address the recipients of my newsletters with ‘Handsome Noble John’ or ’Sacredly Seductive Joanne.’ It’s like she opened a whole new portal for my authentic expression.

KUEL LIFE: What woman inspires you and why?
ALLANA: I love Beyonce’s unabashed sensuality; Ellen DeGeneres’s adorable charm; Kate Beckinsale’s sexy wit; Maya Angelou’s divine grandeur; Glennon Doyle’s in your face hysterics; Sarah McLachlan’s haunting purity; Mel Robbins’ exuberant sass; and Lady Di’s angelic bravery.

KUEL LIFE: Are you grown-up?
ALLANA: Almost ;-).

KUEL LIFE: What do you do for self-care?
ALLANA: My God my entire day is self-care! Loving people cares for my heart. Being in nature cares for my heart. Laughing till I pee my pants with my son cares for my heart. My candles and incense and lotions and flowers and flannel sheets and glorious foods and divine wines all care for myself. I’m here for the delicious embodiment of God consciousness which allows for ALL of life to nourish my soul. Even crying is self care. Or screaming under a full moon. Sometimes I care for myself giving my Little Me inside my heart, a hug.

KUEL LIFE: And last but definitely NOT least: What are the top three things on your bucket list?
ALLANA: Only 3? xox I still haven’t been to Macchu Pichu. And I’d like to stay in one of those bungalows on stilts in Bora Bora. I’d like to run through the hills of New Zealand pretending I’m in Lord of the Rings. I love to be in love in Paris when it’s cold so he wraps his arms around me. I’d love to be at an MLB game where my son is pitching and I can barely breathe because I’m so proud of him. I’d like to own a ranch-like home on several acres and walk for days through the fields with the Divine.

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