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React Less, Respond More, Respect Always: A Guide To Joyful Communication

Nina Obier April 2023 1

Joy Kuel Thought Leader: Nina Obier

Communication is an essential part of our daily lives.

It helps us connect with others, express ourselves, and build relationships. However, sometimes our communication can be reactive, emotional, and even disrespectful. Let’s explore the importance of reacting less, responding more, and respecting always. And how it can lead to more joyful interactions with others.

Reacting less means taking a moment to pause and reflect before responding to a situation. When we react impulsively, we may say or do things that we later regret. This can lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and damaged relationships. Instead, by taking a moment to breathe and collect our thoughts, we can respond in a more thoughtful and intentional way.

For example, imagine you receive a text from a friend, family member, or co-worker that you perceive as rude. Your initial reaction may be to respond with anger or defensiveness. However, if you take a moment to reflect on your feelings, you may realize that they may have misunderstood your previous communication. By responding calmly and respectfully, you can clarify your intentions. You can resolve the issue without creating unnecessary conflict. Better yet maybe pick up the phone.

“Instead, by taking a moment to breathe and collect our thoughts, we can respond in a more thoughtful and intentional way.”

Actively Engage:

Responding more means actively engaging with others in a way that shows that we are listening and understanding their perspective. When we respond to others, we acknowledge their thoughts, feelings, and opinions, and we communicate our own in a clear and respectful way. This leads to more meaningful conversations, deeper connections, and a greater sense of mutual respect and intimacy.

For example, when we listen to a friend who is going through a difficult time, we can respond by offering empathy and support. We can validate their feelings, provide a listening ear, and offer practical help if needed. By responding in this way, we show that we care and that we are there for them, which can help them feel less alone and more supported.

Challenging Communication Situation:

Respecting always means treating others with dignity, kindness, and compassion, regardless of our differences. We may not always agree with others, but we can still show respect by acknowledging their humanity, listening to their perspective, and communicating in a way that is respectful and constructive.

So, the next time you find yourself in a challenging communication situation, take a moment to reflect on these three principles, and see how they can transform your interactions with others. Together we can create deeper connections, resolve conflicts more effectively, and build a more compassionate and understanding world. Now wouldn’t that be joyful!

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Nina Obier

About the Author:

Nina is the acclaimed author of “Listen.Learn.Love.Lead” and “My Daily Clarity” In her keynotes, seminars, and workshops she brings her positive energy and a unique ability to make the complex simple. As Founder of Success Simplified, Nina’s mission is to provide action-oriented tools and strategies so that her audiences and clients gain the ability to remove doubt, discouragement, and distraction to replace it with clarity, confidence, and commitment. 

Nina is passionate about personal development and is known for having the wisdom of a 90-year-old with the energy of a 9 year old.