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Safe Words Are Not Just For The Bedroom

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Simplicity & Connection Thought Leader: Kay Newton

You and your loved ones need safe words now – more than ever!

“Just a simple word or phrase may have changed everything. It is easy with hindsight to write that sentence, yet it has come at a very high cost. I never want anyone else to have to pay that price. If you have adult children or family members that you love, please read the post below and put the contents into action immediately. This information is life-changing for you and those you love the most.” 

Safe Words:

Safe words, traditionally associated with intimacy, have emerged as invaluable tools in fostering understanding and resilience across many facets of life. Today we are facing a new digital age, where our voices and images can be manipulated by AI. More and more relationships involve both physical and mental abuse. It is time to put one simple strategy in place – safe words. 


Data from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence suggests that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men in the US have experienced some form of physical violence, sexual abuse, or stalking by an intimate partner.

“In times of crisis or abuse, safe words become silent lifelines.”

In times of crisis or abuse, safe words become silent lifelines. They offer a discreet call for help, empowering those involved to break the silence and reach out for support. Never think that a member of your family will not be the victim of abuse, it is better to presume the worst and make sure everyone has safe words and passwords and that the right people know what they are.

Says Janice “Over a year ago my adult male child, nearly six foot tall, kind, and considerate, had to be aided in leaving a very narcissistic and coercive relationship. Two years left him broke both financially and emotionally. We are still picking up the pieces. When we all look back one of the simple things we could have used to save such trauma would have been a safe word.”

Implementing safe words in everyday life requires a thoughtful approach. Choosing practical words seamlessly integrated into our conversations makes for a collective effort. From casual family discussions to potential crises, practical safe words and passwords become versatile tools in fostering a safe and supportive environment. Practice using them and change them frequently to keep everyone safe. 

The Digital Age:

An estimated 53.35 million US citizens were affected by cybercrime in the first half of 2022. Between July 2020 and June 2021, the US was the most targeted country for cyber attacks, accounting for 46% of attacks globally.

The digital age presents its challenges, with scams and deceptive messages infiltrating our daily lives. Implementing family-wide safe words becomes a collective effort to fortify bonds against emotional manipulation and potential threats. The power of asking ‘What’s the password?” has never been more expressive since we were small kids and our parents warned us against talking with strangers. 

As technology advances, so do the challenges. Artificial intelligence voice generation introduces the potential for audio manipulation. You may find yourself talking to a deep fake voice of your parents or child asking for financial help and you may never know it unless you have an agreed password. 

“Self-care takes center stage as safe words transform into beacons for personal well-being..”

Says Gillian, “My 84 year old mum is a very savvy lady, fiercely independent and has a good knowledge of computers and possible scams. It broke my heart to learn from the police she had been victimized and lost a total of $15,500. Now she has become totally reliant on us to do her banking and online purchases.”

The role of safe words becomes armor for every generation against the spread of false information, ensuring trust remains intact in this technologically evolving landscape. For further helpful information in avoiding scams, to share with the senior members of your family, look at the Senior Services of America website.

Sensibly Selfish Safety:

In relationships, safe words extend beyond the confines of the bedroom, becoming instrumental in building bridges of communication. Safe words empower you to express your needs and desires with clarity, not only to others but perhaps more importantly to yourself. 

Says Carol “We have to admit we all talk to ourselves. I love my safe word which I change as I need to. One simple word such as ‘breathe’ means that I can really focus down on being true to myself.”

Self-care takes center stage as safe words transform into beacons for personal well-being, a pathway to self-reflection and emotional resilience. We only have one life and being safely Sensibly Selfish allows you to make it the best it can be. Being true to your values, wants, and needs requires stopping and taking stock of your actions. Am I doing something I wish to do or is this coming from somewhere else? What words describes where I am in life right now and is this what I want? If not, what new word do I want to focus on and what will this mean for me? 

“Simple words that empower, protect, and communicate with clarity..”

Get Your Safe Word:

The call to action is now: embrace the transformative power of safe words and passwords in 2024. Simple words that empower, protect, and communicate with clarity, safe words have the potential to weave a tapestry of trust, support, and self-discovery wherever they are used. The journey begins with a word—choose yours today and empower your life and those you love the most.

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Kay Newton

About the Author:

Kay is the founder of Midlife Strategies, an award-winning International Speaker, and enthusiastic author. She is an acknowledged expert guiding women to find their mojo, through the Midlife Squeeze.

Kay’s books include: 

Today, Kay lives a simple life next to a beach in Mallorca, Spain. You can find Kay here: www.KayNewton.com.