Sex, Aphrodite Awakening, Kuel Category Expert: Beth Keil
I love this word, disrobing. Whether you take your clothes off in a sexy, flirtatious way, an-in your-face way, or shyly, whether it’s for your eyes only or for someone else’s, disrobing is sensuous in nature and a way of letting your Self be seen.
In this culture, body shaming is rampant amongst women, so being physically seen can be scary as you wait, expecting to be judged and found somehow lacking.
Not only can you disrobe by taking off your clothes, you can also disrobe emotionally.
Emotional disrobing is exposing your soft underbelly, while putting your defenses down. Some say this is even more vulnerable than taking off one’s clothes, as who you are is made visible.
Even if you are in an intimate relationship, how visible do you let yourself be?
“they’re interested in how they can increase their sexual desire”
Lately, a number of women have asked me about relationships, their libido, and intimacy. More specifically, they’re interested in how they can increase their sexual desire, and sometimes their partner’s as well.
They know I’m a hypnotherapist, so what I share comes from an inside-out perspective – from the perceptions, feelings, thoughts, and experiences a person carries. Clients I work with, who experience intimacy/sexual/relationship issues, get to delve deeper into what they’ve been carrying, unpacking the baggage that keeps them and their relationships in holding patterns, filled with fears about “disrobing”.
Your libido is impacted more by whether you emotionally disrobe than anything else!
More important than toys, wearing sexy clothing, or even hormone levels, is how vulnerable you let yourself be. Without vulnerability, it’s like you’re wearing body armor; nothing will penetrate you, even if you’re physically penetrated.
Intimacy, sexual or not, requires being vulnerable; and it depends on feeling safe to let yourself be fully known by another person. It’s not about providing information about you (the content of your life); it’s about being able to open up your heart!
Being vulnerable doesn’t come with guarantees, but it does require disrobing.
“Shaming yourself for any mistake is a mistake”
You need to be discerning with whom you disrobe, as not everyone is going to be worthy of your vulnerability. There may be times you make a mistake and only realize it in hindsight.
Shaming yourself for any mistake is a mistake, and is a reason people use hypnotherapy.
What do deeper conversations reveal?
Some of the women I speak to share what they were taught about sex, and what it means to be a “good girl” or a bad one. Midlife women may find themselves facing ageism as well as sexism, as they explore their sexuality and desires. There are times I hear stories of abuse, unspoken and spoken promises broken, and repeated disappointments.
All of these impact disrobing.
What many don’t put together is that these experiences and perceptions need to be addressed first, way before exploring external means of increasing sexual desire.
First you need to see if you’re wearing body armor.
Things don’t need to be awful either, to armor one’s self; just the fear of not being lovable or loved, or not being wanted, can have you suit-up quickly. No amount of hormones or various sexual techniques will overcome the armor; remember it’s an inside-out approach that needs to happen first!
If you struggle with any of these issues and want a personal conversation, you can arrange your Discovery Session, using the link below.
Here’s to Aphrodite Rising!
About The Author:
Beth Keil helps her clients change and transform their lives. She offers a special focus on helping people claim the birthright of their erotic identity and to live in the joy, intimacy, and connection it brings. Beth is a Registered Nurse, MindSet Coach, and a Board Certified Hypnotist. Through her work, she enjoys integrating all her interests, experiences, and skills to bring sensuality, sex, and the erotic into greater awareness and conversation. You can schedule a 30-minute complimentary phone consultation with Beth using the Discovery Session icon.