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The Art Of Letting Go: Declutter To Find Joy

Cat Coluccio August 2023

Declutter To Reinvent: Cat Coluccio

In a world where we’re constantly bombarded with information, obligations, and expectations, it’s easy to feel constantly stressed, fearful, and anything but joyful.

Thankfully, while there is so much that we can’t change, there is one practise we can adopt that has the ability to help us find the peace and joy we so desperately want to experience. And that is the art of letting go.

Just as we declutter our physical spaces to create a sense of order and peace in our homes, decluttering our minds, hearts, and lives creates space for us to enjoy the moments we so easily miss when our heads are full of information, schedules, and our own negative self-talk.

“I encourage you to join me this month in creating a new decluttering habit.”

Before we edge into the busy part of the year – back to school, back to work, and the run up to the busy holiday season – I encourage you to join me this month in creating a new decluttering habit. To help you get started, here are five guiding principles to help you master the art of letting go so that you can create space for the life and joy you truly want to experience. 

Release The Weight Of The Past:

Just as we clear out old belongings that no longer serve us, it’s essential to let go of emotional baggage from the past. Holding onto regrets, grudges, or painful memories clutters our minds and prevents us from fully embracing the present.

I’m fully aware that this can be easier said than done though. After all, if we struggle to throw out those jeans from ten years ago, “just in case they come back in fashion.” Imagine how much more we cling to stories we’ve been told and then kept telling ourselves for years and years?

“I’m not good enough.”
“I’m too fat / thin / useless.”

….You know the ones.

And then there are the memories you dredge up and pick at over and over, even though they are painful.

The time you messed up at work and embarrassed yourself in front of your colleagues. 
The time the friend you considered a sister hurt you and spread lies about you.

The art of letting go allows you to release the weight of  memories which can be so deeply rooted in your past. To begin, you need to practice forgiveness. And not just for others, but also for yourself. It may be that you need to seek counseling to fully let go of things, or perhaps you could try adopting practises such as journaling to help you let go.

However you go about it, I encourage you to determine to follow through on this step, as it has the potential to be truly life changing. When you release the weight of the past, you create room for joy to flow freely into your life.

Detach From Material Attachments:

“The reality is that the process of decluttering your material possessions isn’t just about tidying up”

Physical possessions can weigh us down. And the more you have, the more time is taken up looking after them. It’s easy to get caught up watching all of the cool organizing hacks on YouTube, (speaking from experience here!) however the idea is not to purchase more things such the latest storage system. The idea is to actually let go off things you don’t use, need, or treasure.

The reality is that the process of decluttering your material possessions isn’t just about tidying up – it’s about reassessing what truly adds value and brings happiness to your life. It’s time to et go of excess belongings and detach from the idea that material possessions define your worth. Embrace the freedom that comes with a simplified and uncluttered environment.

Simplify Commitments And Obligations:

Our calendars are often cluttered with commitments and obligations that drain our time and energy. Just as we declutter a space by removing unnecessary items, consider decluttering your schedule by evaluating your commitments. Prioritize activities that align with your values and bring you joy. Learn to say no to unnecessary obligations and create space for meaningful experiences that truly enrich your life.

Notice I say “learn” here. We women often find ourselves stretched thin and frustrated when we’ve felt obligated to say yes to fulfil everyone else’s needs – especially at holiday time! Why not decided that this is the year that you are not going to do everything for everyone, and instead, simplify your schedule and choose your obligations thoughtfully so they become a joy, rather than a source of stress.

Embrace The Unknown:

“Embracing uncertainty is a natural part of life’s journey”

Fear of the unknown can be a major source of mental clutter. Just as we declutter a room to create an open and inviting space, the art of letting go requires us to declutter our minds. This can be accomplished by letting go of the need for certainty and control.

If you’re someone who feels they need to have every situation planned out, this may take some practise! Embracing uncertainty is a natural part of life’s journey, and when you release the grip of fear and allow yourself to step into the unknown, you open yourself up to new opportunities, growth, and ultimately, joy.

Foster Authentic Connections:

Relationships that no longer nourish your well-being are like clutter in your emotional space. Just as you declutter your social media feed and what you watch and listen to, consider that it may also be time to assess your real-life connections. When you surround yourself with people who uplift, inspire, and genuinely support your journey, and let go of toxic relationships that drain your energy, you make space for authentic connections that contribute to your happiness. In the same way, take the time to assess if you are being that authentic friend to the people in your life as well.

The art of letting go is a transformative process that requires intention, self-awareness, and a willingness to release what no longer serves you. As you embark on this journey of decluttering your life however, using each of these five points, you’ll soon discover that you have created space where joy can thrive and where you can appreciate the moment you are in right now.

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Cat Coluccio

About the Author:

Cat Coluccio is a qualified Educator, Personal Trainer and Life Coach – and a champion of midlife women. She is the host of the Rocking Midlife® Community and Podcast, and the author of a number of books, including 21 Hacks to ROCK your Midlife.  Join my FREE 30 Day Love your Home Decluttering Challenge for 30 days of email prompts to help you fall in love with your home once more!

Cat is passionate about helping midlife women create fulfilling and purposeful lives yet understands how challenging it can feel to consider reinvention when your world is already so incredibly full. Hence she firmly believes that the first step to building the life that you desire in your next season, is to declutter and create space right now – be that physically, mentally or digitally.

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