Sexuality Thought Leader: Beth Keil
Inquiring Minds Want to Know.
When you were a child, do you remember seeing The National Enquirer at the grocery store? Its headlines were quite different from ‘mainstream’ newspapers!
Typically, what we thought about the paper was based on what the adults in our lives thought. During my hypnosis training, I learned this is a normal common occurrence. When we’re younger, we use the worldview of the authorities around us as a filtering mechanism.
It’s how we start to understand the world around us.
“Over time, we learned to passively accept what we were told.”
We Learned To Believe Authority Figures:
As children, adults tend to be authority figures. Whether they’re our parents, teachers, doctors, or clergy, many of us were raised to never question them. Over time, we learned to passively accept what we were told.
Learning To Question:
Most likely, unless you had a classical education, you were never taught and encouraged to look at information and ask how answers were arrived at, let alone, there can be multiple answers!
The Importance Of Being A Skeptic:
Skepticism means questioning what you read or hear to learn what principles or claims are being made, and what they’re based on. Without this knowledge, you have no idea the worldview (perspective) the person, institution, or organization is coming from.
Recently, I read a study that looked at whether abstinence while dating led to a better marriage. When I read the researchers were from Brigham Young University, a Mormon institution, the way they framed their study, the questions that were asked, and their emphasis on marriage, it all made sense.
Can differing worldviews be useful? Of course. Do we need to agree with them? No. Agreement is not a prerequisite to deepening our understanding. Curiosity is.
Question Authority – Be A Skeptic:
Asking questions of a perceived authority figure can be challenging, even as an adult woman!
“Skepticism means questioning what you read or hear to learn what principles or claims are being made..”
In addition to everything else we were taught growing up, we were also taught to be a good girl. If we weren’t, we might be seen as aggressive or a bitch. If we are any of these things, people might not like us.
You Can Judge Yourself For Not Speaking Up:
Keep in mind, you only did what you learned to do! Fear is also a strong silencer, leading us to protect ourselves.
Our birthright includes asking questions and asking for what we need or want. It means we can say no, get a second and third opinion, and go elsewhere. It means others might feel uneasy or threatened by your questions, BUT THIS IS ABOUT THEM, NOT ABOUT YOU! And, with such a reaction, are they someone you want to work with?
You Are The Mistress Of Your Own Ship:
Asking questions means taking responsibility for your life and the decisions you make. Responsibility is the ability to respond! And it does not mean you go it alone!
Remember, a ship not only has a captain, but a crew worthy of the voyage! They are there to share their knowledge, offer their perspective, and support you as you make your way.
Enjoy the adventure!
About the Author:
Beth Keil helps her clients change and transform their lives. She offers a special focus on helping people claim the birthright of their erotic identity and to live in the joy, intimacy, and connection it brings. Beth is a Registered Nurse, MindSet Coach, and a Board Certified Hypnotist. Through her work, she enjoys integrating all her interests, experiences, and skills to bring sensuality, sex, and the erotic into greater awareness and conversation. You can schedule a 30-minute complimentary phone consultation with Beth using the Discovery Session icon.