Connection Kuel Category Expert: Kay Newton
Imagine that you are sitting looking down at a deep water well. It is pitch black, a void with no light at all. When you drop in a stone you cannot hear a splash. When you shout into the abyss there is no answer, the sound is swallowed whole.
Fear & Uncertainty
You have no idea how deep the well is, nor exactly what is in there, yet in order to survive you must be brave enough to lower in a bucket. There is another catch, when you do pull out water it will not quench your thirst, only those that you serve.
“your mind paints vivid pictures of green monsters and evil spirits who mean you nothing but harm”
The more you look at the darkness of the well, the more afraid you become.Your mind paints vivid pictures of green monsters and evil spirits who mean you nothing but harm. The more you think, the more you can feel the fear. Your heart begins to race and pound, your hands become sweaty and before you know it you cannot breathe.
Despite all spiraling fearful feelings, you must trust and lower the bucket down into the chasm. You know that no matter where you are in the world, it will be the same story – another well. And, you cannot run or hide, you have to confront all that it holds.
You Are Worthy
On top of all the emotions you are personally feeling, you must also persuade others that you are worth keeping alive. You must cajole the people around you to go through the exact same feelings and drop the bucket in so you may quench your thirst. You will have to help them deal with all their fears, to calm their feelings, and the negative reality they have created around the well. And, then, when they drop the bucket in and retrieve water you will most likely have to go through another round of emotions as you persuade them to actually share the life saving water with you.
The Collective Fear Of The Unknown
To summarize, you all have to deal with the fear of the unknown, collectively, or you will all die. You all have to trust the system, to believe that this is the best way forward. To begin with, it can feel extremely stressful, yet this is your life’s work, it will not cease until the day you die.
Thankfully, the more you lower your bucket and collect water, the less afraid you become of the dark. The pitch-black does not change its shape and form, yet each bucket gives you more confidence. Confidence to calm your emotions every time you face the unknown.
“the more buckets of water you collect the more you begin to understand that there is always enough for your needs”
No Demons In The Well
You come to realise, there are no demons in the well, just in your mind. As you collect and share your water to help others, you feel a sense of gratitude fill your heart, which emanates from every pore of your body. It literally infects others around you who also begin to glow, behave calmer and happier and therefore in turn are happier to serve you their gift of water.
Every time you lower the bucket you find water. The more buckets of water you collect, the more you begin to understand that there is always enough for your needs, providing you take exactly what you need and no more. As soon as you start to hoard water or someone demands more than they need, the well runs dry. There is a perfect balance of enough which is simplicity itself, providing you listen to the natural order of things.
Before you know it the dark well holds no more power over you. You have connected to yourself at a deeper level and at the same time tapped into the collective good of the whole. Together, you work as a team, serving each other.
Todays Fear – Fantasized Experiences Appearing Real
Every day we must face our fears. In order to face them we must first connect to them, and acknowledge them. Fears come in all shapes and sizes. For example, fear of the world in general, phobias, not being good enough, fear of failure, fear of the unknown future. The list is enormous. Yet, these modern day fears do not exist, except in the mind.
In the caveman era, fear helped with fight or flight, a survival mechanism to avoid being eaten by a Tyrannosaurus. In our modern world, fear leads to stress, and imbalance which most people on the planet suffer from in some shape or form. As we listen to the media and world news, we take on the collective stress. If we believe all stories told by others are true, it is easy to take on the fear and anger they portray.
Fear Will Make You Ill
Fear will eventually make you ill. And, fear and anxiety weakens your immune system. It can cause cardiovascular damage, gastrointestinal problems such as ulcers and irritable bowel syndrome, and decreased fertility. It can lead to accelerated aging and even premature death. Fear kills.
We are slowly beginning to realise that the way we live our lives right now is full of fear and it is not sustainable. It is making everyone and the earth – ill. Deep down we know that consumerism, taking more than we need from the planet cannot go on. We see our monetary, political, education, health systems falter. And, we know that at some point they will crumble and fall, yet we fear their destruction. We fear the unknown.
We Have Forgotten That Change Is The Only Constant
“we have to connect to trust, be confident that all will be well”
In the universe, change is inevitable. Even if we do not know what our new world will look like, it will be different. It is just like looking down the dark well, we have to connect to trust, be confident that all will be well. In order to change the world we have to let go of the fear. Fear of COVID19, the declining Western system and how we will survive in the future. This is our modern day dark well.
The modern dark well has no power over you, unless you let it. Instead, trust and connect to the power of serving others – help those around you from being thirsty.
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About the Author:
Kay is the founder of Midlife Strategies, an award-winning International Speaker, and enthusiastic author. She is an acknowledged expert guiding women to find their mojo, through the Midlife Squeeze.
Kay’s books include:
- ‘The Art of Midlife Stress Busting – Seven Steps to Declutter Your Mind Without Pills or Potions’
- ‘How to Clean Your Home Organically – De-Stress Your Surroundings’
- ‘Tips and Tricks For Stress-Free Downsizing – A Step by Step Guide to Moving On’
- Co-author of the six Kindle books in the ‘Quick Fix For’ series, and a contributing author to ‘Hot Women Rock’ and ‘A Journey of Riches’.
Today, Kay lives a simple life next to a beach in Mallorca, Spain. You can find Kay here: www.KayNewton.com.