Shelly is a therapeutic coach specializing in healing the Mother wound.
She helps women who want to move beyond the negative impact of a challenging relationship with their mum in order to find deeper levels of healing and become un-limited in their personal or professional lives.
Our Community welcomes Shelly to the Thought Leader Roster this month. Shelly will speak to us specifically about our very first relationship – the one with our Mother. So, if you did not have a picture-perfect relationship with Mom – stay tuned.
Welcome Shelly Sharon to Kuel Life:
KUELLIFE: What type of business do you own/run?
Shelly: I help women who know they’ve been negatively impacted by the relationship with their mother. And want to find deeper levels of healing so they could become un-limited in their life.
Shelly On Helping Women:
KUELLIFE: What prompted you or drove you to become an entrepreneur? When?
“Helping women heal the mother wound is my third “career incarnation”.”
Shelly: Helping women heal the mother wound is my third “career incarnation”. After being a gourmet chef and a business consultant for effective social change. For most of my working life, I’ve been an entrepreneur. But I’ve never really felt confident and was always haunted by a sense of ‘not-enough’.
But 11 years ago I went through a big break-open. Coupled with a growing sense of confidence I gained through these previous careers, I decided to follow up with an early life wish to ‘just be myself’ as a vocation.
I had a messy childhood. And knowing who I was has been an ongoing process of self-discovery with many trials and errors. So this time, I took a break from working life and traveled to India with my then-new partner to get away as possible from everything and anyone. I knew I had to discover how to materialise ‘being myself’.
Healing The Mother Wound:
On the road, people frequently asked me for a session to help them with different life questions. When I came back from the East and settled first in Italy and then Switzerland I noticed in my practice that most women I worked with came up with some form of a hindrance that eventually led to the understanding that it’s actually rooted in a challenging relationship with their mother.
Connecting the dots together with my own life story I’ve realised what I was born to do. I’ve shifted to focus on healing the mother wound and enhanced my knowledge and skills with trauma-informed, attachment, and somatic practices.
KUELLIFE: What’s your biggest struggle?
Shelly: The current one is visibility. Since shifting the focus of my service to healing the mother wound it’s like I’ve come back home after a long journey, where I’ve changed a lot, learned a lot, evolved a lot and everything I’ve gathered within myself is being put to the test.
“My biggest fear is that my business won’t provide for my livelihood needs.”
In my previous career things somehow happened naturally and miraculously. I had a lot of cosmic help but also a huge network in my homeland, Israel, which I never acknowledged before leaving abroad. And somehow now (did I say test?!), all the strategies that worked for me before somehow don’t apply anymore and in recent years I had to learn how to make myself visible. I’m dancing on the threshold between wanting to be seen and fear of being fully seen.
Culmination Of Everything:
KUELLIFE: What is your biggest fear as an entrepreneur? How do you work through it?
Shelly: My biggest fear is that my business won’t provide for my livelihood needs. Essentially, it’s the existential fear of not existing—if my business can’t provide for me I won’t be able to keep it alive.
What I’m doing today is a culmination of everything else I did in my life including the healing of my own mother wound. I’ve never felt so “attached” to my business. So I’m working through the meaning-making processes that are tied to my business and how they’re related to childhood wounds.
I don’t do it alone! I work with a business coach and a therapist to uncover the limiting beliefs that hold me back. Basically, I take care of myself just as I advise the women I work with.
KUELLIFE: How do you measure your success?
Shelly: If I can be happy with myself, I feel I’ve succeeded. Success has become such a charged word. But when I think of success as a basic sense of “enough-ness” I can easily measure where I’m at in any field of life without getting caught in the ready-made prescriptions for measuring my life or my successes.
“If I can be happy with myself, I feel I’ve succeeded.”
The passion that drives my work is for every woman to define her success on her own terms, unapologetically, with unwavering confidence. Imagine living in a world like that.
Shelly’s Experience Being An Entrepreneur:
KUELLIFE: Finally, what advice would you give other women about taking an entrepreneurial path?
Shelly: My experience taught me that being an entrepreneur tests our capacity to stretch ourselves into new territories of life.
Each time you’ll face a new threshold you won’t only need to know how, for example, to market your business or set up goals. The challenges will bring up to the surface unhealed emotional and psychological wounds that match up with those business-related tasks.
I’ve worked with many women who’ve had huge talents and tons of experience but weren’t able to break through barriers in their career or finances because the mother wound held them back. They’ve written it off because it wasn’t “business-related.” My evergreen motto is: Build a robust bridge between the inner and outer of your life.
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