Wildly Imperfect: Elaine Blais
In a world that constantly celebrates perfection, it’s easy to feel like those “perceived flaws” are failures.
But those so-called imperfections are beautiful parts of the whole of who you are.
They are also profound teachers, guiding you to self-approval, growth, and authenticity.
Embracing imperfections can feel like coming home to yourself with all your beautiful quirks, weirdness, and complexities. It can feel like finally exhaling into the life you’re meant to live – no striving or pretending to be something you’re not.
12 Bold Ways To Rock Your Imperfections With Confidence:
Here are twelve bold and fun ways to start embracing your imperfections right now:
1. Redefine Perfection:
First, let’s unpack what “perfect” even means. Here’s my definition: “Perfection is an unnatural, inauthentic, and exhausting pattern driven by the fear of being criticized or shamed for being your true self.” It’s an illusion shaped by societal pressures that most often don’t align with who we truly are. It’s completely subjective. You get to choose what it means for yourself. What matters most is your unique version of excellence.
“You get to choose what it means for yourself.”
2. Challenge Your Inner Critic:
Our inner critic often tries to protect us from failure or judgment, but often it’s just plain mean. It’s time to start being your own best friend. The next time you hear that critical voice, pause. Ask yourself, “Is this thought helpful, or is it holding me back?” Notice how often that critical voice tends to focus on imagined standards rather than your actual desires or needs.
3. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection:
Celebrating every small win rather than just the big leaps is transformational. Notice and appreciate each step forward, even if it feels tiny. Progress—however small—reflects movement and growth. Shift your mindset to see each step, each misstep, and each adjustment as part of the journey. Here’s a really practical tip: at the end of each day, jot down all the ways you made progress – tiny or otherwise – and sleep on that. You’ll be programming your subconscious to continue to see progress and not perfection.
4. Practice Self-Compassion:
Embracing imperfections means making self-compassion a priority. Treat yourself with the same kindness, patience, and understanding you’d offer a friend. When mistakes or setbacks happen, own them without judgment or making yourself wrong. They’re proof you are living a wildly imperfect and boldly human life. Embrace the humanity in your imperfections.
5. Reframe Failure as Feedback:
Mistakes are simply opportunities to learn. Honestly, I no longer believe in mistakes. We do our best, get feedback based on the outcome, and then readjust as needed. Reframe failures as feedback guides your next step. Rather than beating yourself up, try to ask, “What can I learn from this experience?” This mindset shifts the focus from judging yourself to supporting your growth and it’s a game changer!
6. Let Go of Comparison:
Comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to feel inadequate. Social media often shows only highlight reels, not the messy reality of being human. Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your own unique journey. Give your attention to the next right step for you. Remember, no one else has walked in your shoes or faced your particular challenges.
7. Celebrate Your Quirks and Unique Qualities:
Your quirks, imperfections, and “flaws” are what make you, you. Embrace what sets you apart—whether it’s your odd laugh, a tendency to lose track of time while creating, or how easily you tear up at a good movie. These traits add to the richness of who you are and often bring joy and laughter to those around you.
“Redefine success on your terms—let it reflect your values, not society’s “perfect” template.”
8. Challenge Unrealistic Expectations:
Often, our struggles with imperfection stem from unrealistic expectations we place on ourselves. Take a moment to examine these expectations and ask, “Are these truly my standards, or are they imposed by someone else?” Redefine success on your terms—let it reflect your values, not society’s “perfect” template.
9. Engage in Activities Without Needing to Excel:
Do something for the fun of it! Pick up a hobby or activity just for the sheer joy of it. Maybe it’s painting, dancing, or learning a new language. Give yourself permission to be a beginner and to make mistakes without feeling pressured to be the best. Releasing the need for perfection allows you to explore and grow in a playful, liberating way.
10. Surround Yourself with Supportive People:
Being around people who appreciate and accept you as you are makes it easier to embrace your imperfections. Seek relationships that uplift and encourage you rather than those that enforce strict standards or judgments. True friends don’t expect perfection—they love and support you in both your highs and lows.
11. Create a Daily Affirmation Practice:
Affirmations can shift your focus from criticism to self-acceptance. Try simple affirmations like “I am enough as I am,” or “I embrace my imperfections as part of my unique journey.” Write them on sticky notes or keep them as reminders in your phone. Use dry erase markers to write them on your bathroom or bedroom mirrors. Say them aloud to remind yourself that you are whole and worthy, flaws and all.
“Affirmations can shift your focus from criticism to self-acceptance. “
12. Be Authentically Vulnerable (Yes, Really!):
Sharing your imperfections with trusted people can help break the illusion of perfection. When you open up about your struggles or insecurities, you allow others to see the real you, creating deeper connections. Vulnerability can be a powerful way to build resilience and self-acceptance by letting go of the need to appear flawless.
Embracing your imperfections isn’t about giving up on growth or self-care. It’s about honoring the person you are today while making space for the person you’re becoming.
Perfection is stagnant, while authenticity is ever-growing. By choosing to embrace your imperfections, you invite self-love, resilience, and a life that reflects your true self. So, take a deep breath, let go of the need to be perfect, and embrace every beautiful, imperfect part of you.
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About the Author:
Elaine Blais is Spiritual Life Coach, Imperfection Alchemist and author whose superpower is helping humans, primarily women, alchemize their perceived imperfections and turn them into strengths. Her signature program, The Art of Self-Approval™ is a pathway to breaking free from the chains of perfectionism and people-pleasing and unlocking your full potential.
After a quarter century in the corporate grind, and years of struggling with co-dependency and self-doubt, Elaine decided to leave behind what was expected of her and transform into the woman she wanted to be. So, at fifty-nine, she decided to write a new chapter in her life, literally. Her debut book, 3 Secrets to a Kickass Life, is a manifesto for those looking to live with intention and purpose. Elaine believes you can write your own story too.
