3 Helpful Benefits To Declutter Elderly Parents’ Possessions

Declutter To Reinvent: Cat Coluccio

We’ve talked a lot about decluttering here on Kuel Life for quite some time now. Be it seasonal organizing, embracing minimalism, organizing our devices or learning to say no –  decluttering has been about making our homes, our workspaces, our digital devices and indeed, our lives better. There is another aspect to decluttering at midlife however, and that is helping our elderly parents let go of their clutter – something that can be somewhat of a challenge.

As our parents grow older, their homes are often filled with a lifetime of possessions, each item a reminder of past experiences and cherished memories, and urging them to declutter or perhaps try the concept of Swedish death cleaning can be an emotional and delicate task.

Helping our parents declutter is not just about reducing physical ‘stuff” however, it’s about creating a safer, more manageable living space while ensuring that the most meaningful items are preserved and celebrated. 

“As our parents grow older, their homes are often filled with a lifetime of possessions..”

Navigating Difficult Conversations:

There are a number of uncomfortable conversations to be had with your aging parents at some point: explaining that their driving is no longer safe, getting their official permission for you to make decisions on their behalf if they are incapable, helping them understand that they need to downsize into a much more manageable sized home or a care facility – and so many more.

In my mind, decluttering their possessions is another topic that should be added to the above list, and like those other conversations, this one should also be broached with kindness and empathy. 

Asking your parents to let go of possessions they have owned for countless decades is a delicate request, and one that may need revisiting until they are ready to agree. Once you have this agreement, you can then swing into planning how you will approach the task, but it is important to not to take any action until they are ready.

Staging An Intervention:

Whilst there are always exceptions such as needing to make decisions for parents who are mentally incapable, generally speaking, it is important to broach the topic of decluttering gently and respectfully, understanding that your parents will probably need time to process the idea. The last thing they need is stress and hurt resulting from you staging an “intervention” where they are taken by surprise and basically steam-rolled into agreement.

When you allow them the time to think through the concept, ask questions and find reassurance that they will have the final say on what stays or goes, you will have preserved something so important for elderly people – their dignity.  

During your conversations with your parents, it’s important to clearly articulate the benefits of decluttering. Once they realize the positives outweigh the negatives, your job moving forward will be much smoother. 

“During your conversations with your parents, it’s important to clearly articulate the benefits of decluttering.”

3 Benefits Of Decluttering Your Elderly Parents’ Possessions:

1. Mental And Emotional Well-Being:

Over the decades, our parents and elderly relatives have gathered items that hold sentimental value. Every trinket, photograph, and piece of furniture can be connected to a cherished memory. Too many possessions however creates clutter, and as I explain in my book, The Savvy Midlifer’s Guide to Decluttering: Clear the Clutter, Reclaim your Sanity and Create Space for the Life you Want, clutter can cause stress, anxiety, and even depression.

By helping them declutter, we can facilitate mental clarity and emotional well-being. Simplifying their home reduces the stress that comes with feeling the need to constantly tend to the items, (e.g dusting) and creates a more peaceful environment where their senses are not constantly bombarded by possessions. Thoughtful decluttering will help your parents choose the most precious items to keep, and enable them to enjoy their memories without being overwhelmed by them. 

2. Physical Health And Safety:

A cluttered home can pose significant physical risks. For seniors, who may already have mobility issues, excessive belongings can become tripping hazards, leading to falls and injuries. Clearing out unnecessary items helps create a safer and more navigable living space. This is particularly crucial as we aim to ensure that our elderly loved ones can live independently for as long as possible. As an extra bonus, a decluttered home is easier to clean and maintain, which can prevent health issues related to dust and mould accumulation!

3. Practical Considerations:

At some point in time, many elderly individuals face the prospect of downsizing or moving to a smaller living space. Whether due to health reasons or the desire for a more manageable home, a move like this makes decluttering essential. Simplifying their belongings in advance can make this kind of  transition far smoother and less stressful. As well, a decluttered home makes daily routines easier. Finding necessary items becomes less time-consuming, and taking the time to re-organize in an intentional way once the decluttering is completed, can lead to a more efficient and enjoyable living experience for your parents.

Improve Their Lives, Declutter Elderly Parents’ Possessions:

Encouraging your elderly parents to declutter their belongings or explore the idea of Swedish death cleaning is undoubtedly a delicate topic and one that requires much empathy. It involves confronting memories, letting go of certain items and making thoughtful decisions about what to keep. Despite the emotional challenges however, the outcome is worth the effort. By helping our parents streamline their living spaces, we enhance their quality of life, ensure their safety, and preserve the essence of their memories. This journey – though emotional – is a meaningful way to support our loved ones in living their golden years with clarity, comfort, and dignity.

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