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Have A Struggling Adult Child? 11 Graceful Ways To Respond To Questions About Them

Have A Struggling Adult Child? 11 Graceful Ways To Respond To Questions About Them

Kim Muench, Becoming Me Thought Leader

Have a struggling adult child?

“HELP! Every time I go to a family gathering or see friends, especially during the holidays, someone asks, “What’s your son up to these days?” It feels like a loaded question because he is struggling to figure things out. I’m not sure how to respond without oversharing—or getting emotional. What should I do?”

Graceful Responses To Questions About Your Struggling Adult Child:

First of all, take a deep breath. You’re not alone in feeling this way. When your emerging adult is struggling—whether it’s with mental health, finding a direction, or something else—questions like these can sting. The good news is, you don’t owe anyone the full story, and it’s okay to set boundaries while still answering with grace.

Here Are Some Responses You Can Use:

  • “He’s figuring things out right now, and we’re supporting him as best we can.”
  • “He’s in a season of self-discovery. It’s not always easy, but we’re hopeful about what’s ahead.”
  • “He’s taking some time to find his path, and we’re there for him every step of the way.”

These replies are honest but don’t invite further probing. They allow you to speak to his journey as a work in progress, which is exactly what it is.

“These replies are honest but don’t invite further probing.”

His story is his to share when and if he chooses to. To honor that, keep your responses focused on your role as his parent, not on the specifics of their challenges. For example:

  • “We’re proud of the steps he’s taking, even though the road hasn’t been straightforward.”
  • “It’s been a learning experience for all of us, and we’re giving him the space and support he needs.”

By framing it this way, you protect your son’s dignity while still being authentic.

They Need To Grow Up:

Sometimes, people press for more details or make comments that feel judgmental, like, “Kids these days just need to grow up.” It’s tough to hear those kinds of comments, especially when you’re already feeling vulnerable. Remember, you’re not obligated to defend your son’s choices—or your parenting—to anyone.

Here are a few calm and kind yet firm responses you can try:

  • “Every family’s path is different, and we’re proud of the progress he is making.”
  • “It’s not always a straight road, but he’s learning and growing in his own way.”

Sometimes, redirecting the conversation can also be helpful. For example:

  • “It’s a tricky stage of life, isn’t it? How are your kids finding their way?”
  • “We’re taking it one day at a time. How have you been doing lately?”

Shifting the focus not only sets a boundary but also keeps the conversation moving in a more comfortable direction.

Some parents feel the pressure of being judged. While this is hard, it’s important to remind yourself that your son’s journey doesn’t define you as a parent. The transition to adulthood looks different for every person, and your son’s challenges aren’t a reflection of your love or effort.

What You Can Control:

Focus on what you can control: your support, your boundaries, and your belief in his ability to grow. When you answer questions about him, speak from a place of strength and compassion—both for yourself and for your son.

How do you handle it if you just don’t want to talk about him at all in that moment? That is absolutely okay. You’re allowed to hold boundaries around conversations that feel too tender or intrusive. A polite but firm redirection can work wonders:

  • “You know, we’re all learning and growing, and that includes me as a parent. How’s work going for you?”
  • “It’s a work in progress, but let’s talk about something else. What’s new with you?”

This approach signals you’re not inviting further discussion while keeping the interaction friendly.

“You’re allowed to hold boundaries around conversations that feel too tender or intrusive.”

Supporting An Emerging Adult:

Above all, give yourself grace. Supporting an emerging adult who’s lost in place is hard, emotional work, and you’re doing your best. When others ask about your son, focus on what’s true: he is on a journey, and you’re walking alongside him with love, patience, and hope.

And remember, you’re allowed to protect your peace. Not every question requires an answer, and not every conversation is an opportunity to explain. Trust you know what’s best for your family—and carry that confidence with you, no matter what anyone else may think.

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Kim Muench Becoming Me
About the Author:

Kim Muench (pronounced minch, like pinch with an “m”) is a Jai (rhymes with buy) Institute for Parenting Certified Conscious Parenting Coach who specializes in working with mothers of adolescents (ages 10+). Knowing moms are the emotional barometer in their families, Kim is passionate about educating, supporting and encouraging her clients to raise their children with intention and guidance rather than fear and control. Kim’s three plus decades parenting five children and years of coaching other parents empowers her to lead her clients into healthier, happier, more functional relationships with compassion and without judgment. 

You can find out more about her mission and services at www.reallifeparentguide.com. She is on Facebook at Real Life Parent Guide, Instagram, and on LinkedIn as well.

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