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Do You Have A Plan For Navigating Your High-Conflict Divorce?

Beverly Price August 2023

Empowered Divorce Thought Leader: Beverly Price

Divorce is seldom an easy process, but when it becomes a high-conflict situation, the challenges can be even more daunting.

High-Conflict Divorce:

A high-conflict divorce is characterized by intense disputes, hostility, and a breakdown in communication between the divorcing parties. 

However, with the right strategies and approach, it is possible to navigate this difficult terrain and find a path towards resolution and personal growth. In this article, we will discuss practical steps and valuable advice for individuals going through a high-conflict divorce.

“One of the first steps to take when facing a high-conflict divorce is to engage professional help.”

Seek Professional Guidance:

One of the first steps to take when facing a high-conflict divorce is to engage professional help. Hiring an experienced divorce attorney who specializes in high-conflict cases can provide you with expert advice. And hiring an experienced divorce coach who can help you manage your emotions, develop coping strategies and skills, and be your advocate throughout the entire process can be very helpful as well.

Prioritize Self-Care:

Divorce, especially in high-conflict situations, can be emotionally and physically draining. It is crucial to prioritize self-care to maintain your well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and provide stress relief, such as exercising, spending time with loved ones, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or pursuing hobbies. Taking care of yourself will help you maintain clarity and resilience during this challenging time.

Establish Boundaries:

Setting clear boundaries is essential in high-conflict divorces. Communication can often be a major trigger for conflicts, so consider using alternative methods, such as email or text messaging, to minimize direct contact if necessary. Limit discussions to matters directly related to the divorce and maintain a respectful tone. It is also important to establish boundaries with friends and family members, requesting their support without dragging them into the conflict.

Focus on the Children:

If you have children, their well-being should be a top priority. Shielding them from conflict and protecting their emotional stability is crucial. Avoid involving them in adult issues or using them as messengers between you and your ex-spouse. Instead, strive for effective co-parenting by creating a comprehensive parenting plan and maintaining consistent routines for your children. Consider involving a family therapist or mediator to facilitate communication and help resolve conflicts related to the children’s upbringing.

Document Everything In A High-Conflict Divorce:

In a high-conflict divorce, maintaining a detailed record of all communications, agreements, and disagreements is invaluable. Save emails, text messages, and any relevant documents related to the divorce. Documenting interactions can provide evidence in case of future disputes and help you make informed decisions about legal and custody matters.

“Save emails, text messages, and any relevant documents related to the divorce.”

Explore Mediation and Alternative Dispute Resolution:

Traditional litigation often exacerbates conflicts in high-conflict divorces. Exploring alternative dispute resolution methods, such as mediation or collaborative divorce, can offer a more cooperative and less adversarial approach. These processes focus on finding mutually agreeable solutions and can help reduce conflict while preserving relationships to some extent.

Practice Emotional Intelligence:

High-conflict divorces can trigger strong emotions, but learning to manage them is essential for maintaining control and making rational decisions. Practice emotional intelligence by identifying and acknowledging your emotions, developing healthy coping mechanisms, and seeking support when needed. Taking responsibility for your own emotional well-being can help you navigate the divorce process more effectively.

Are You Prepared Now With Your High-Conflict Divorce?

While a high-conflict divorce is undoubtedly challenging, it is possible to find a path towards resolution and personal growth. By seeking professional guidance from a divorce coach, prioritizing self-care, establishing boundaries, focusing on the children, documenting interactions, exploring alternative dispute resolution, and practicing emotional intelligence, you can navigate this difficult terrain with greater ease. 

Remember that your well-being and the well-being of your children should remain at the forefront throughout the process. With time, patience, and perseverance, you can emerge from a high-conflict divorce stronger and ready to embrace a new chapter in your life.

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About the Author:

Beverly Price, MBA, Certified Divorce Coach®, podcast host, and Founder of Her Empowered Divorce, combines divorce and empowerment coaching to provide education, support, and insight to guide women from beginning to end of the divorce process, and to conquer its emotional, technical, financial and logistical challenges and fears. 

She coaches women through the ups and downs and grow from self-doubt to self-love quicker, with less pain, more knowledge and more support than she had.  She has a personal history with divorce, co-parenting, domestic violence and more. Combining her personal experience with her training, professional certifications and business knowledge, she can help women by supporting them along their journey, helping them to work through resentments, time management, communication, overwhelm, fear, sadness and shock. You can schedule a complimentary consultation with Beverly at https://www.herempowereddivorce.com  Check out this Meetup group for support on Zoom for separated, divorcing, and divorced women https://www.meetup.com/womens-divorce-and-empowerment-group/