Sexuality Expert: Beth Keil
What Do You Want And Need?
After a group conversation about menopause, I continued to speak with one of the women. She shared that she didn’t have the same level of sexual intimacy or interest with her husband, ever since entering menopause.
Restrictions from the pandemic had, and were, impacting both her family and intimate life, as her children were house-bound. Compounding the situation, they were new to where they lived, moving there months before the shut down, so her children hadn’t yet made friends. Add to the mix online schooling at home and that both she and her husband were working from home.
“These activities were early in the morning, as the temperatures where they lived heated up by late morning.”
Being Romantic Partners In Cycle Wasn’t Making Their List!
With recent covid restrictions in her area being lifted, there were now activities her children could participate in, giving she and her husband the opportunity to spend alone time together. These activities were early in the morning, as the temperatures where they lived heated up by late morning.
I asked if there was a way for another parent to watch her kids, so they could be alone. Her response was, “his work is very busy in the early morning.”
This Is Where Scheduling Something That’s Important, Is Important!
I laughed, and pointed out how she scheduled other important things in her life, didn’t she? Then, for some reason, she thought I was saying to do this every morning, and how that wouldn’t work!
It was then we both were aware of how she was adding additional obstacles to creating time with her husband.
Now Came The Deeper, Perhaps More Difficult Question To Ask:
How did she feel about her husband, and their relationship? Were her needs, wants, and desires being met?
Menopause Cycle Brings Vital Questions For You To Answer!
Menopause brings not only an end to your menstrual cycle and fertility; it comes with a demand to look at your whole life.
- What’s working, what’s not
- What you can work with, where you can no longer settle
- What’s important, what’s not
- …and what are you willing to do about it?
(I don’t mean to make this either/or, as these questions are more complex)
“What started about desire and hormonal changes, was now about who she was, and was becoming.”
These Questions Can Shake-up Your Life, & Your Answers Can Profoundly Change It:
I shared with the woman I was speaking with, that what we need or want from relationships, changes over time. Qualities you look for in a person to date, can be different if you want to marry, or be in a committed relationship. If you want children, there may be other qualities you need and then, when you’re an empty-nester, another set.
The Menopause Journey, the one that starts when your periods change (longer, shorter, heavier, lighter, before it ceases) brings with it a whole other set of qualities you may need and want in your partner (or potential partner).
Where The Conversation Ended Was Not Where It Began.
What started about desire and hormonal changes, was now about who she was, and was becoming. She was in the midst of a life review and life renewal in her relationship.
It Was Deep, Profound, And Important:
“Perhaps you’re also on this journey of review and renew”
And, she isn’t alone.
There are many women I speak with and work with, who face these same questions. Each has to find her own answers, but time and time again, being able to talk with other women also on this journey, makes a huge difference!
Perhaps you’re also on this journey of review and renew, and could use some help as you navigate it; perhaps you find yourself scared to explore these vital questions. Reach out and let’s talk!
You may be surprised to find out that hypnotherapy can help you as you make your way through this cycle, as you clear obstacles you’ve been bumping into. Just click on Discovery Session below, and schedule a 30-minute phone conversation to find out more!
Here’s to Aphrodite Rising on The Menopause Journey!
About the Author:
Beth Keil helps her clients change and transform their lives. She offers a special focus on helping people claim the birthright of their erotic identity and to live in the joy, intimacy, and connection it brings. Beth is a Registered Nurse, MindSet Coach, and a Board Certified Hypnotist. Through her work, she enjoys integrating all her interests, experiences, and skills to bring sensuality, sex, and the erotic into greater awareness and conversation. You can schedule a 30-minute complimentary phone consultation with Beth using the Discovery Session icon.