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How To Help An Unmotivated 22-Year-Old: 4 Powerful Steps To Encourage Responsibility

How To Help An Unmotivated 22-Year-Old: 4 Powerful Steps To Encourage Responsibility

Kim Muench, Becoming Me Thought Leader

How to help an unmotivated 22-year-old seems to be the million dollar question these days.

Recently I got this question from a client:

“My 22-year-old son is still living at home, not working or going to school, and spends most of his time playing video games. I’ve tried everything to motivate him—encouragement, tough love, even withdrawing financial support—but nothing seems to work. How do I get him to take responsibility for his life?”

You’re not alone in feeling frustrated, helpless, and worried. Many parents face this exact struggle with their emerging adults. The key here is recognizing that the transition to adulthood is often slower and more complicated for this generation. It’s important to reframe your role from being the “fixer” to being the “guide.”

“It’s important to reframe your role from being the “fixer” to being the “guide.”

How To Help An Unmotivated 22-Year-Old Take Responsibility and Thrive:

Here are four steps to help you approach this situation:

1. Shift The Focus To Collaboration, Not Control:

Instead of feeling responsible for “fixing” your son’s lack of motivation, think about how you can work *with* him. Start a conversation where you acknowledge his autonomy and ask him what he wants for his future. The goal is to make him feel like an active participant in the process, not someone being forced into action.

2. Set Clear, But Compassionate Boundaries:

Boundaries create structure and accountability. Explain that while you love him and want to support him, living at home without contributing isn’t sustainable. Whether it’s asking for financial contributions, chores, or agreeing on a timeline for job applications, set boundaries that are firm but kind.

3. Allow Room For Consequences: 

Sometimes, the most powerful motivator is natural consequence. If your son continues to choose video games over taking action, allowing him to experience the reality of his choices (such as not having spending money or access to certain privileges) can prompt change. Consequences aren’t about punishment—they’re about teaching accountability.

“Consequences aren’t about punishment—they’re about teaching accountability”

4. Encourage Professional Help, If Needed: 

 If you sense deeper issues like depression or anxiety are holding him back, encourage counseling or therapy. Sometimes, lack of motivation is a symptom of something bigger.

Make Space For Your Adult Child To Take Responsibility:

Remember, this journey is a marathon, not a sprint. Change may not happen overnight, but with consistent support, clear boundaries, and space for him to take responsibility, progress will come. If you find you need more guidance on this issue consider working with a qualified parenting coach.

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Kim Muench Becoming Me
About the Author:

Kim Muench (pronounced minch, like pinch with an “m”) is a Jai (rhymes with buy) Institute for Parenting Certified Conscious Parenting Coach who specializes in working with mothers of adolescents (ages 10+). Knowing moms are the emotional barometer in their families, Kim is passionate about educating, supporting and encouraging her clients to raise their children with intention and guidance rather than fear and control. Kim’s three plus decades parenting five children and years of coaching other parents empowers her to lead her clients into healthier, happier, more functional relationships with compassion and without judgment. 

You can find out more about her mission and services at www.reallifeparentguide.com. She is on Facebook at Real Life Parent Guide, Instagram, and on LinkedIn as well.

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