Midlife Matters: Linda Butler
Let’s talk rediscovering joy in midlife!
When was the last time you tried something new just for pure enjoyment? Just for you?
Midlife often prompts us to question our purpose, seeking to create a new chapter that brings more passion and connection to what truly matters. However, many women struggle with the perceived need to determine their big “P” in purpose, feeling pressure to identify the “one” thing that will bring everything into focus.
Finding purpose doesn’t have to be about discovering the “one” thing. Purpose is often found in the lower case “p’s”, in a combination of smaller yet meaningful things. It’s about rediscovering what brings us joy. What makes a good day? What makes you bound out of bed in the morning? What makes you feel alive?
Embracing New Experiences:
Trying new things in midlife can reignite a sense of adventure and fun. Embracing new hobbies and interests can be the spark you need to reawaken your creativity and help you rediscover and pursue personal passions. For instance, one woman I know started painting again after years of neglecting her artistic side to focus on family and career. She found immense joy and a renewed sense of purpose in expressing herself creatively, tapping into a skill she forgot she had.
“Embracing new hobbies and interests can be the spark you need to reawaken your creativity and help you rediscover and pursue personal passions.“
This process of exploration can lead to surprising discoveries about what truly excites you. Embrace the opportunity to try something new, whether it’s a dance class, a cooking course, or a new sport. Stepping out of your comfort zone can uncover new interests that bring fulfillment.
The Power of Play: Why Fun Matters:
Can you recall a childhood moment when you felt free and full of joy, completely absorbed in what you were doing? I can remember vividly being a child on a swing, and the joy of going higher and higher, trying to reach the sky.
Incorporating play and fun into daily life has significant psychological and emotional benefits. Engaging in playful activities can reduce stress, boost mood, and enhance overall well-being. When you allow yourself to play, you reconnect with a sense of freedom and spontaneity.
Developing new skills through playful activities can also boost confidence and fulfillment. Research shows that playfulness can improve mental health and create a sense of purpose.
Building Connections: Social Benefits of Playfulness:
Midlife can be a crucial time to forge new friendships and connections. Old relationships, formed through shared experiences like kids’ soccer matches, may dissolve as your role evolves to that of an empty nester. Play can be a conduit for creating new relationships and building community. Sharing playful experiences with others creates bonds and memories that enrich your social life.
For example, there is a reason the sport of Pickleball has exploded in popularity recently. It’s easy to learn, available for all ages and levels, and creates an immediate community with a common interest.
Finding new ways to connect, like joining a book club or a hiking group, can lead to new friendships. These connections provide emotional support and a sense of belonging, and purpose.
“Finding new ways to connect, like joining a book club or a hiking group, can lead to new friendships.“
Integrating Fun into Daily Routine:
Incorporating more fun and playfulness into a busy midlife schedule requires intention and prioritization.
Practical tips for integrating fun into your daily routine include setting aside specific times for hobbies and leisure activities. For instance, you might dedicate an hour each evening to reading or a weekend morning to hiking. Creating space for fun leads to more productive and fulfilling professional lives.
Exploring activities that bring joy and prioritizing self-care and leisure are crucial. By making time for fun, you create a more holistic and satisfying life. Remember, self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential for overall well-being.
Rediscovering Joy In Midlife:
Rediscovering joy and incorporating playfulness into midlife are key to creating a life of purpose. By exploring new activities, embracing play, building connections, and creating space for what lights you up, you can author a more fulfilling and joyful next chapter. Get out of your comfort zone by trying new things, rediscovering old passions, and integrating fun into your daily routine.
Finding purpose doesn’t have to be about discovering the “one” thing. It’s about discovering sources of joy in the collection of things that make life meaningful. By viewing your life as an ecosystem, you can ensure that all parts are healthy and in harmony. This approach will help you build the life you want, filled with curiosity, experimentation, and play.
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About the Author:
Linda C. Butler, a former HR executive turned entrepreneur and coach, is passionate about empowering midlife professional women to become the CEOs of their own lives. After navigating her own transformative journey following a layoff at age 50, Linda now leverages her extensive corporate leadership experience and neuroscience-based coaching expertise to help women redefine personal success on their terms.
She focuses on uncovering and overcoming limiting beliefs, embracing authentic leadership styles, and establishing healthy boundaries. Her holistic approach ensures a harmonious blend of career, family, and personal health and well-being for a more fulfilling second chapter. Linda’s mission is to inspire midlife women to stop settling and become the architects of the future they truly deserve.
