Midlife Matters: Diane Amelia Read
Burnout from overfunctioning in women over 50 often shows up not as failure, but as exhaustion disguised as competence.
For most of my adult life, I said “yes” because I could.
I leaned hard into my administrative superpowers … organizing chaos, anticipating needs, holding a thousand moving parts together with calm efficiency. And to be clear, it wasn’t a waste. That skill set gave me decades of fascinating, enriching work, including world travel, and 33 years assisting an Oscar-winning film composer.
I was good at it. Really good.
And WOW, did my ego love the feedback.
The praise. The appreciation. The “atta girl, we couldn’t do this without you.” There’s a very particular endorphin rush that comes from being the capable one. The reliable one. The woman who can organize a mountain of tasks and get them all done without seeming to break a sweat.
Here’s the part I didn’t know to consider:
Just because something feeds your ego doesn’t mean it feeds your soul.
When Capability Becomes a Trap
Somewhere along the line, “Cake! I can handle it” became “I should handle it.”
And, over time, “I have to.”
That’s how burnout sneaks in for high-achieving women. Not through failure, but through over-functioning. Through competence without pause. Through saying yes to the dopamine hit of being needed, even when your body is waving little yellow flags of exhaustion. For me, it was recurring laryngitis. I was ignoring my inner voice … and it said, “Fine. Take THIS.”
Ultimately, the hardest boundary I ever set wasn’t with a boss or a client.
It was with me.
I had to stop saying yes for the praise, the approval, the identity reinforcement. I had to question why I kept choosing work that made me look impressive while ignoring the quiet voice questioning, “Is this ‘it? This is all there is?”
The Vulnerability of Choosing Yourself
What finally shifted things wasn’t confidence. It was vulnerability.
I had to face some uncomfortable internal messaging about being “too old” to pivot. Too late to start something new. Too established to change lanes.
And then I did something radical. I started hosting my own online health and fitness business for women over 50. At 60.
Despite my doubts.
Despite the messages in my head that revolved around the premise, “Are you nuts?!”
And because it required me to show up for myself.
I started my business, in large part, to keep myself accountable for my lifelong wellness. To regular movement. To supportive nourishment. To practices that actually sustain my energy instead of draining it.
And wouldn’t you know … it worked.
Choosing Yourself Is a Wellness Practice
At this stage of life, regular exercise isn’t just about strength or “show muscles.” It’s one of the most reliable ways to regulate mood, lower stress hormones, maintain independence, and kick burnout squarely in the backside.
Supportive nourishment isn’t about restriction. It’s about lovingly fueling a nervous system that’s been running on high alert and Cuppa Noodles or office snacks for decades.
When you choose yourself consistently, something remarkable happens: your capacity and impact don’t shrink. They clarify and expand.
You stop doing everything and start doing what matters.
Burnout From Overfunctioning in Women Over 50 Requires a Reframe
January can be a month of high hopes and high-pressure expectations. Instead of pressure, consider permission.
Permission to say:
“I could do that… and I’m choosing not to.”
“I’m capable… and I don’t need to prove it.”
Choosing yourself without apology isn’t selfish. It’s strategic. It’s how you protect your energy, your health, and your joy for the long run.
Remember, just because you can, doesn’t mean you should or have to. And just because you choose yourself doesn’t mean you’re “less than” or shutting down.
It means you’re finally listening where it matters most.
This chapter is yours, and your body’s, to claim fully, boldly, and without apology.
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About the Author:
Diane Amelia Read is an experienced growth partner, health and mindset advisor, stereotype disrupter, and surfer wannabe. She’s a Reiki Master Teacher, podcaster, StreetWise MBA graduate, and samba singer, Law of Attraction mentor, and motivational speaker.
Her mission is to make the world a more loving and interconnected place by helping women love themselves first so they can bring their most joy-filled awesomeness to everyone and everything else without depleting themselves
As a Mind & Body Alchemist For Women Over 50, Diane Amelia’s unique personal transformation toolbox is chock full of options for midlife women ready for sustainable improvement in their health, confidence, mindset, income, community, or all of the above.
