Sexuality Thought Leader: Beth Keil
You can’t think or will your body into heart racing sex, for desire is at its core!
This is a big reason why how-to books are disappointing – they don’t spark and ignite passion and desire, though they could be fun and interesting later on!
Your Intellect Wasn’t Designed To Make You Wet; You Need To Go Deeper Than That!
Desire is what turns you and your body on, and is the gateway to passionate erotic intimacy. It’s about your emotions, imagination, and your body’s memories, and they tap into all of your five senses – touch, taste, sight, hearing, and smell. If you’ve been in a passionate relationship, these are what orchestrated your desire and physical arousal!
“What situations turn you on? Is it a particular time of the day or night, what you read or watch, or what you wear?.”
It’s Time To Create Your Heart And Desire Diary!
Notice what turns you on and makes you hot.
What situations turn you on? Is it a particular time of the day or night, what you read or watch, or what you wear? If it’s fantasy, what scenarios light up your body?
Just by noticing these, you’re already gathering ideas for your Heart And Desire Diary!
Your Diary is like planning an amazing getaway; you may focus on where you want to go, but where you choose to go is based on HOW it makes you FEEL! Now, your focus is on desire, pleasure, and intimacy.
What Senses Push Your Button?
Using all of your five senses, explore your desire points:
- Do you enjoy when your lover narrates what they’re thinking and doing to you?
- Is being vocal (or wanting to be) a turn on?
- What about your lover’s scent?
- Are there smells that excite your inner Aphrodite?
- How does the look of desire in your lover’s eyes affect you?
- What kind of lighting turns you on?
- What is it like when your lover touches you intimately?
- Do you enjoy tracing their body with yours?
- When you kiss your lover, does the taste of their mouth excite you?
- What about licking chocolate off their skin?
“Be curious and open as you explore this pleasure…”
Imagine:
Start by creating a sensory-rich experience for your mind, body, and desire, pausing after each line you read…
Imagine being in a passionate intimate embrace with your lover/partner …
Take time and notice your body, and all the sensations you’re feeling …
Be curious and open as you explore this pleasure …
Notice how it begins to spread to other parts of your body …
Allow your senses to fuel your desire and passion, deepening your pleasure …
Let your body yield to these sensations, surrendering to your desire and to your lover …
You Have What You Need To Create Your Heart And Desire Diary!
Now, write down your experience, in full rich detail.
In addition, notice as you write down those experiences, what parts turn you on? Those are your desire points that can lead to heart racing sex!
Why Would Any Of Us Deny Ourselves Sensual Sexual Pleasure?
It happens easier than you think! There’re so many things we live with and unconsciously tolerate, turning us off from having heart racing sex!
“We’ve been conditioned to focus on the external world, that pulls us out of ourselves and into a world of demands and expectations”
Ask yourself:
- How frequently are you exhausted by the end of your day or week?
- Does your to-do list race in your mind, and prevent you from relaxing, or making time for pleasure?
- Are stressors in your life draining you, so all you want is to be left alone, sleep, watch TV, eat, or drink?
Being Turned Off Becomes The Norm:
We’ve been conditioned to focus on the external world, that pulls us out of ourselves and into a world of demands and expectations.
Do you find your work to be soul-sucking and depleting? In other words, are your energies put into obligations, your to-do list, and paying bills instead of into play, fun, and passion? Under these conditions, it’s hard to experience heart racing sex!
Another way we get turned off is when there are issues in our relationship. As a result, we protect ourselves, many times unconsciously, to avoid being vulnerable or getting hurt.
Shutting Down, Shuts Down Desire:
Recently, one of my clients realized she’s in this dynamic with her partner – she doesn’t feel he chooses her over the commitments he makes. She feels personally rejected and as a result, she doesn’t allow herself to be intimately available to him the way she could. She also came to realize, being overweight has been an unconscious way to keep him at a distance!
“Keep in mind, the outer world does not care about your relationship or your desire, which is why its demands are constant!”
This woman, just like many other clients I work with, is an example of how your past can overshadow your present relationship. Moreover, hurt, trauma, and feeling unlovable, are all causes for shutting down. Just like with desire, your intellectual intelligence can’t think you out of it! You need to go deeper!
There’s also your relationship with the outer world to consider, it too has an impact on you, your intimate relationship, and desire. Remember, outside demands will always be there, just like a baby bird with its mouth wide open to be constantly fed.
How much control do you want the outer world to have over your life and intimacy? Keep in mind, the outer world does not care about your relationship or your desire, which is why its demands are constant!
Making You The Priority:
There are many ways in which to explore, clear, and heal the past that impacts your relationships. For example, hypnotherapy can help.
In conclusion, Hypnosis is not necessarily what many people think of first, but it is a way to do this much deeper work. If you’re interested, please arrange a Discovery Session with me. The link is in my bio. We can have a deeper conversation about issues you’re dealing with, and how hypnotherapy may be an effective solution.
Here’s to Aphrodite Rising!
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About the Author:
Beth Keil helps her clients change and transform their lives. She offers a special focus on helping people claim the birthright of their erotic identity and to live in the joy, intimacy, and connection it brings. Beth is a Registered Nurse, MindSet Coach, and a Board Certified Hypnotist. Through her work, she enjoys integrating all her interests, experiences, and skills to bring sensuality, sex, and the erotic into greater awareness and conversation. You can schedule a 30-minute complimentary phone consultation with Beth using the Discovery Session icon.
