Joy as a decision-making guide sounds almost laughably simple until you realize most of us have been steering our lives by the wrong instrument entirely.
Today, I had an interesting chat with my Uber driver, who’d lived in the US for twelve years. He observed that everyone seemed to work as much as possible, and then use their free days to catch up on sleep, laundry, and groceries.
Ooof. Busted! I grew up learning to prioritize work in all its forms, so the first time I heard the idea of deliberately choosing joy as a decision-making guide, I thought, “Oh, that’s … cute.”
I was a capable, get-it-done, calendar-color-coding, “tell me the plan and I’ll execute it” kind of woman. I trusted productivity.
Joy felt like a lovely side dish to my to-do list. Maybe a reward. But a strategy? No, it didn’t track …
And yet, it stuck. What if joy wasn’t a reward … but a roadmap?
The Shift I Didn’t See Coming
Curiosity kicked in, and I started experimenting with different questions.
“What should I do next?” became “What might feel a little bit better?” Low stakes. No harm in asking, right?
And here’s where it gets interesting.
The more I looked for what felt good, the more I found it. Not because life suddenly became perfect – it didn’t – but because my attention shifted. And where attention goes … well, you know the rest.
Joy was everywhere, even in the most mundane moments.
Joy Has a Sneaky Little Superpower
It’s easy to think transformation requires big moves. But joy works differently.
Joy compounds.
- One small feel-good choice leads to another.
- One moment of appreciation softens the next interaction.
- One decision to honor your energy influences the rest of your day.
Over time, those seemingly insignificant choices begin to stack. Momentum builds, and before you know it, you move differently, respond differently, expect differently.
It’s not overnight. It’s not flashy. But it is powerful.
Why This Hits Us Different
There comes a point … and if you’re reading this, you’re likely there … where pushing harder stops being the answer. That old playbook … power through, say yes, be everything to everyone, earn your rest … starts to feel expensive.
Your energy dips. Your patience thins. And your body begins offering … feedback.
This is where joy becomes more than a nice idea. With joy as your compass, the question shifts from “What needs to get done?” to “How do I want to feel while I’m living my life?”
That’s not indulgent. That’s brilliant.
Joy as a Decision-Making Guide Rewires Your Brain
Here’s the cool part:
When you start looking for joy … even a little, even skeptically … you begin to see more of it. With a new set of instructions, your brain, your body, your awareness all begin filtering for what feels good instead of filtering for problems.
And that shift is profound. It calms your nervous system, widens your perspective, and the big payoff: the world doesn’t have to change for you to feel good.
No Need To Overcomplicate
You don’t need to quit your job, move to Bali, or overhaul your entire personality. Instead, once or twice a day, pause and ask, “What would feel a little bit better right now?” Not perfect, optimized, or Instagram-worthy. Just … better.
Maybe it’s:
- Going for a quick walk instead of scrolling
- Drinking water before your third coffee
- Saying “not today” instead of “sure, I can do that”
- Turning in earlier (my growth area)
- Taking one deep breath before responding
Small shifts. Real impact.
Foundation, Not Fluff.
Many of us were taught to take life seriously. To be responsible. Be productive. Be reliable. No shade … those things matter.
But so does this: Joy is not optional, it’s foundational. It’s a way of moving through life with balance and authenticity. When you use joy as your compass, you don’t abandon your responsibilities. You just stop dragging yourself through them.
Consider This …
What if joy isn’t something you wait for at the end of a long day… or a long year… or “someday?”
What if it’s something you start to follow with intention? Maybe not perfectly or constantly, but often enough to change the texture of your days. One disrupted thought loop at a time. One choice. One moment.
Over time, you’ll notice those moments add up. And before you know it, you’re not just finding joy…
You’re living it.
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About the Author:
Diane Amelia Read is an experienced growth partner, health and mindset advisor, stereotype disrupter, and surfer wannabe. She’s a Reiki Master Teacher, podcaster, StreetWise MBA graduate, and samba singer, Law of Attraction mentor, and motivational speaker.
Her mission is to make the world a more loving and interconnected place by helping women love themselves first so they can bring their most joy-filled awesomeness to everyone and everything else without depleting themselves
As a Mind & Body Alchemist For Women Over 50, Diane Amelia’s unique personal transformation toolbox is chock full of options for midlife women ready for sustainable improvement in their health, confidence, mindset, income, community, or all of the above.
